Thursday, December 1, 2011

In wonderland

I was wondering how Alice felt as she dropped herself down the rabbit hole.  She'd popped herself into the chasm out of mere boredom.  There must have been fear, excitement, loneliness, independence, thrill, friendship, enemy-ship and even some boredom.  Could we gather her in our arms and say, "Alice, don't worry.  Taste what they offer.  Sip what they suggest.  Measure how each feels."  Then Alice would say, "And then?  What happens next once I measure how I feel?"  We would say, "Alice, we don't know.  Keep listening.  Keep telling stories."  Stay vulnerable.

Inventory - imagine, write, investigate, analyze, soothe, carry minds, organize
Professions - journalist, researcher, teacher, priest, politician

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Kiliminjaro

Kiliminjaro is unaffordable and unapproachable.  To all but a few.  It's foreign territory.  Neither Mount Washington nor Everest illicit the same sort of anticipation and enthusiasm.  Tanzania is the middle of my nowhere.  Nowhere that is unaffordable, unapproachable, unrestrained.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

"The Difficulty of Being Good"

In The Difficulty of Being Good, Gurcharan Das quotes Kalidas stating, "In matters where doubt intervenes, the [natural] inclination of the heart of a good person becomes the 'authority' or decisive factor."  God is not always around to arbitrate.

In the Mahabharat, Krishna was fortunately there and he insisted that Arjun kill Bhishma pitama along with the Kauravas because of his commitment to the throne and its rulers.  By giving his word to his father that he would always fight for the throne, Bhishma pitama relinquished his ability to reason on the side of goodness at a time when the throne was unjust.  There is no honor in being on the wrong side.  The cause is more important than grandiose gestures intended to last an eternity.  

Sunday, November 13, 2011

"Master of the Universe"

Heman used to sing in my younger ears, and I sure did like him.

"He-Man... And the Master of the Universe!

I am Adam, Prince of Eternia, Defender of the Secrets of Castle Greyskull. This is Kringer, my fearless friend. Fabulous, secret powers were revealed to me the day I held aloft my magic sword and said: "By the Power of Greyskull!"  He-Man, He-Man . . . I have the power!  Kringer became the mighty BattleCat and I became He-Man, the most powerful man in the Universe! Only three others share this secret . . . Our friends the Sorceress, Man-at-Arms, and Orko. Together we defend Castle Greyskull from the evil forces of Skeletor. . . . He-Man!"

So let's pull out the words we like.

Master, hmmmmm.
Universe, yes.
Defender, yes.
Eternia, sounds good.
Fearless, yes.
Fabulous, yes.
Friend, for sure, yes.
Secret power, definitely.
Revealed, yes.
Magic, yes.
Mighty, un-huh.
Together, yup.

A nice assortment of big words for a little girl.  Of course given the Skeletors in my closet, I needed to believe that mighty He-man would do right by his magical powers.  Contexts matter.  Closets matter.

End Notes:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7yeA7a0uS3A

America Shining

On Charles Dickens first visit to the US in 1842, he wrote aghast letters back home to England about the plundering ways of the robber barons, the cruelty of slavery, and the disparity between the haves and the have-nots in the immigrant slums.  He was in America just prior to the California gold rush.  Investment in infrastructure like the railways was conducted under euphemisms of progress.  Quiet voices equated the railroads to the "tentacles of an octopus" that wrecked havoc upon the land and its natives as it crawled further into the hinterland.

This Dickensian America is perhaps now most apparent to those mingling on Wall Street.  The rest rest in gratitude for the toils of the quiet voices who found their way to the pulpit over a century and a half.

"...some of America's advances, particularly in the area of free speech, that have been achieved by centuries of popular struggle, are to be admired.  In many respects, the United States is the freest country in the world. I don't just mean in terms of limits on state coercion, though that's true too, but also in terms of individual relations. The United States comes closer to classlessness in terms of interpersonal relations than virtually any society" (Noam Chomsky).


End Notes-
Adams, Tim (2003-10-30). "Noam Chomsky: Thorn in America's Side". London: The Observer. Retrieved 2007-09-04
Chomsky, Noam. 2003. Chomsky on Democracy & Education. Routledge. p. 399

Thursday, November 10, 2011

The Word of the Lord

"The Word of the Lord", said the preacher.
"Thanks be to God" reverberated the church-goers.

One believes God is pansophic, and therefore makes commitments that He always keeps.

For the rest of us mere mortals, commitments (even when entered with caution) are hairy areas.  Circumstances change.  People's priorities change.  Over the years (and mine are slight) you see enough loss to understand the preference of others for signed documents.

Word comes from Old Norse "orth", almost like "oath".  So some part of you continues to live in a world where word is Word".

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/word

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Piddling over pennies

Reliance Industries is ganda dhana for many reasons, but the one that is most disturbing is their reputation for not paying vendors on time.  They like to "tighten" their vendors by withholding payment for months beyond contractual commitment.  It's one way to manage your working capital, I suppose.  The vendors hire the guys who will curry favor the big bully on the block, "Sahab, us payment ka kya hua?"  It's gotten so severe that some venture funds check whether their potential portfolio company is supplying to Reliance;  it's indicative of the investee's tolerance for servility.  As a start-up owner I used to know once said, "I'll touch anyone's feet to get business."

Anna Hazare, the business world also needs you.

End notes:
Ganda dhanda = dirty business
"Sahab, us payment ka kya hua?" = "Sir, would you be so kind as to tell me about that payment?"

Raja-prajah

The days of the Raja-prajah metaphors in organizational behavior are over.  People won't stand for it.  They'll go work for the more data-oriented decision-makers like Google, makemytrip, naukri and One97.  "Just a bunch of internet companies" rule the roast. 

Sunday, November 6, 2011

At will

Consider volunteer - ("Origin: 1350–1400; Middle English < Latin voluntārius, equivalent to volunt(ās) willingness, inclination (ultimately representing a formation with -tās -ty2 on the present participle of velle to want, wish; see will1, -ent) + -ārius -ary").

http://dictionary.reference.com/

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Noam Chomsky for Kids


When I say kid, I mean me.  Noam Chomsky has equated most modern-day employment in the US to "wage slavery".  I suppose he's referring to the absence of collective bargaining that an individual faces when determining his wages with a Firm, particularly when the Firm treats the individual like a replaceable, replicable commodity.  I suppose the approach in these Firms is "Get with our rules or get out".  Almost a forced conformity that a factory worker may feel in an assembly line.  A line of mannequin, not men.  I wonder if he ever imagined such a fate as a child. "When I grow up, I'm going to be a dummy, like daddy".  


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mannequin

"Mere sir peh kya gadha likha hai?"

Aarti Sethi once guided me on the art of negotiating with an auto walla.  I have used her approach but once but with supreme satisfaction.  If any auto walla refused to turn on the meter and offered Aarti an outrageous price, she would look at him and say, "Mere sir peh kya gadha likha hai?" (that is, "Do I have donkey written on my forehead?" except it is way ruder in Hindi and therefore precise.)

The one time I approached the matter as per Aarti's direction, I had one jaw-dropped auto wallah and peals of laughter by bystanders in the vicinity.  A docile facade can be wonderful sometimes.

Brand Identity Dilemma


I was quite surprised when I saw this yesterday and was sharing my shock with my masi but as she informed me, this brand has been around for more than forty years.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Tit for Tat

One grows more and more accustomed to thinking of governments as a nefarious black box.  Especially when it comes to spending other people's money.  It therefore seems best to invest our labor in exchange for personal utils.  Barter services for services.  The lower the cash transfer from employer to worker bee, the lower the tax liability.  Cash on the balance sheet should be just enough to run a smooth operation.  Bottom line - reduce opportunities for these podgy middle men to get their grubby hands on our money.    

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Immersion

Nani ji once told me this story.  There was once a King who proclaimed an award for any man who could best imitate a chicken.  It never occurred to me to wonder then why a King would be interested in such a service.  But the King was interested.  He received an assortment of men from the four corners of his kingdom who wanted to demonstrate their prowess in imitating chicken.  Men came, and they clucked away.  But their voice lacked depth and they disappointed the King.  Finally the King received a man who asked to be granted six months at the end of which he would perform before the King.

The King agreed and the man trekked off to a farm by the edge of a quiet mountain where a farmer kept a large brood of chicken.  The farmer offered the man a room in his home but the man asked that he be allowed to live with the chicken.  He squatted down on his legs and started waddling from one foot to the next.  Like the chicken, he only ate the grains that the farmer spread on the ground, one grain at a time.  At night, he curled up and slept in the coop.  For six months, this went on.  And then one day, the man decided to return to his kingdom.  He presented himself to the King and his nobles, clucking and waddling away.  The Great Hall saw a man but sensed a fowl.  The King showered the man with rewards.  And I didn't forget the story.

Saturday, October 8, 2011

Misanthropy

My father died two years ago. And we've recently decided to sell the house that we were all born in. It seems that since the news got around, many "friends-of-your-father" have come out of the woods. The door bell keeps ringing. The door bell and I have always had a dark relationship and now the animosity grows. It bears these "friends-of-your-father".

Then it occurred to me, how can God bear it? All those people who come to Him beseeching away. Asking to be given special favors. Bells cackling away. I wonder if they also say to Him, "we're 'friends-of-your-father'".

[Resounding Hail Marys, as I write.]

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Putting a price on your life

We hesitate to put a price on our life. As Master' Card says, some things in life are priceless.

But let's play a game and assume I live for a hundred years. That means I'll have lived for 36,500 days. In this make-belief moment, let's also price my life at a billion dollars. That's upwards of 26,000 dollars of worth each day.

Did I do something worthy of 26,000 dollars today? Silence.

It gets tougher if I divide priceless by 36,500.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

"Fulfillment"

Beast-of-burden rolls easy off the tongue. It evokes images of the awe-some (in its former sense), of large powerful creatures that would leave one in awe. Tall and muscular with hind legs made for plowing and planting. Animals like elephants, camels, horses who transport hard, heavy loads on their back.

It is simpler to acknowledge ones likeness to these beasts should the likeness exist. The acknowledgement makes it possible to accept one purpose, one place. The natural propensity justifies a single-mindedness. You are here to deliver.

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls this state "undivided interest" where hobbies meld into work and time loses its tick-tock.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Pity, sympathy, empathy, and affection

Pity is a dangerous emotion. Given current usage, feelings of superiority or condescension creep in. Sympathy (from the Greek sympátheia, referring to the sensation of suffering) is rapidly headed down the same path. .

We've managed to preserve empathy, firmly rooted in the Greek empátheia or affection.

These etymologies have consequences for what we choose to do.

In the past, "social work", "charity", "pious works" were the sought after feel-gooders. They're self-aggrandizing and slow. One's need to feel needed encourages a steady-state of dependence in the other. At a more extreme level, there was martyrdom and self-flagellation. What purpose does it serve? Whom does it lift?

Do not be poor with the poor.

In current parlance, the "social enterprise" starts to adopt a similar grandeur. A purpose is lauded because it makes money and therefore sustains itself. But this line between "non-profit" and "for-profit" is not what we should obsess about.

The critical distinction between organizations is apparent in thinking about empathy. Both types of organizations teach men how to fish. But loosey-goosey generalizations can only take us so far. We need to ask how happy our end beneficiaries are. How do we measure their happiness? Who asseses the data? How happy our employees and vendors are? How do we measure their happiness? We need to do what it takes to get to "customer obsession, ownership, bias for action, frugality, high hiring and innovation". These are all reflections of empathy for ourselves and others.

Lila Watson suggests the ultimate, "If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together".


End Notes
http://www.achievement.org/autodoc/page/bez0bio-1

Monday, September 26, 2011

Nothing new under the sun





In the Simile of the Cave, the Greek philosopher Plato describes prisoners shackled in a row facing a wall.  Their heads and limbs are constricted such that they only see the wall.  Behind them at a distance, a fire burns.  As free men and cattle move in and out of the cave, the prisons see their shadow on the wall ahead.  When the free men speak, the prisoners hear echoes reverberating around them.  The shadows and echoes are their reality.  It is all they know.  Then Plato supposes, what if these prisoners were set free?  What if they were free to see the men and the cattle who walked into the cave?  What if they were taken out of the cave and introduced to the sun light?  If after living in the light these freed men were to return to the cave, would they rejoice in their former reality?  


Plato goes on, "'There was probably a certain amount of honour and glory to be won among the prisoners, and prizes for keensightedness for those best able to remember the order of sequence among the passing shadows and so be best able to divine their future appearances. Will our released prisoner hanker after these prizes or envy this power or honour? Won't he be more likely to feel, as Homer says, that he would far rather be "a serf in the house of some landless man", or indeed anything else in the world, than hold the opinions and live the life they do?"


I want to be a serf in the house of a landless man.  


End notes -
Plato, The Republic.  
Tait Simpson - http://blog.taitsimpson.com/2009/08/allegory-of-the-cave/

Monday, September 19, 2011

Wolves


At last count, approximately 76 wolves lived in Denali National Park across 8,432 square kilometers, implying a per capita of 9 wolves per 1000 square kilometers.  In contrast, Delhi is home to 16,753,265 people across 1,484 square kilometers, implying a per capital of more than 11 million per 1000 square kilometers.  


Wolves are for the most part maligned in our literature.  Nevertheless, as far as space is concerned, they seem better off than us.


End Notes-
1.  The Wolves of Denali by David Mech, Layne Adams, Thomas Meier, John Burch and Bruce Dale
2.  http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-04-05/delhi/29384145_1_population-central-delhi-yamuna

Saturday, September 10, 2011

“My game is beautiful”

Yuwa (http://www.yuwa-india.org/)

Three years ago, Pushpa Kumari Toppo from Hutub village started playing football at the age of twelve. In less than a year she was selected for the Indian National Team for girls after she and twelve teammates from Yuwa lifted Jharkhand’s state ranking from 20th to 4th in the nation. Her father, Jhabu Oraon, a mason at a local hospital, got news of her game when someone at the construction site brought a local newspaper with her photo on the front page. Pushpa is now one of the Indian girls’ team’s top players, scoring six goals in just five games at the Asian Football Confederation Cup in Sri Lanka where India was crowned Champions.

The Problem
Like all children, the girls had wanted to play when they were younger. One of the players, Sita shared, “When we were younger, we would go from house to house asking one of the boys for a ball, but no one would give us one. We once pooled some money to buy a ball but then that lost wind after a few weeks. Once or twice we even filled a plastic bag with trash and kicked it around”.

The situation started to change in 2008. Franz Gastler, a Boston University graduate from Minnesota who was teaching English at the village, saw the girls playing football and offered to coach them if they put together a team. Franz recalls, “So many of them would come barefoot in the early days ... they’d bring cow dung patties to burn and warm their feet during practice in the winters.” Franz told the girls that if they would save 400 rupees towards the cost of shoes, he would arrange for the other half so that they could buy shoes. “We wanted each player to own a pair of shoes, to own their own ball”, says Franz. Many of the girls readily put aside the lunch money to save for a pair of shoes.

The Intervention
So it began. Within a year, Franz, Anand and Hiralal (the first coaches) were organizing practices for more than a 100 girls and 40 boys daily. They started with a simple set of principles for coaching. Franz describes, “Our three rules of coaching have been: First rule, we want the players to have contact with the ball as much as possible. Second, no long lines. No standing around. Practice should be a lot of fun. We need to keep the players moving. Third, we believe in peer-to-peer coaching. We’re working towards a player-centric approach. Our coach is ‘a guide on the side, not a sage on the stage’. We’ve seen that a 12 year old girl is very effectively able to help a 10 year old to develop some capabilities.” Oral traditions come to the forefront on the playground.

To support operations, Franz and four friends from Minnesota, Stephen Peterson, Greg Deming, Erik Odland, and Tim Deming invested six lakhs and got to work. The team of four in the US work on tasks that can be managed remotely including fund-raising, legal affairs, accounting and the development of the coaching modules. They named the organization Yuwa (meaning “youth” in Hindi) and registered it as a charitable trust that would use a team sport like football to help young women to gain confidence.

The Challenges
In the beginning, many of the parents would not let their girls come to football practice. Later the team learnt from one of the players that the parents were worried that Franz might kidnap their daughters, and reasonably so given that sex trade is a huge problem in Jharkhand. Franz, Anand and Hiralal had to go from house to house assuring the parents that they wanted to teach their daughters football. Little by little, they managed to persuade the parents to let their daughters play.

Ladies First
If the parents had reservations about the girls playing football, the boys of the village certainly did not think the girls needed to be playing. In the first few months, some of the local boys would come to the field and behave in a rowdy manner and stop the girls from playing. Hiralal and Anand faced a lot of ridicule from the other young men who made fun of them for coaching girls in football. It took some time for Hiralal and Anand to persuade the boys to support the practice. 

Slowly the sentiments changed. The boy’s and the girl’s teams started to practice against each other. Sunita and Kalamati, two of the girls, started coaching the boy’s team. The girls began going to tournaments organized across the state and the boys accompanied them to cheer them on. If you attend practice now, you may well hear the coaches reinforce values of respect like telling the boys not to kick the girls on the knee when they play together. “There’s now a very nice camaraderie between the boys and the girls’ teams of the kind I used to have with the girls who were in my judo teams” says Franz.

Self-esteem
The practices have now been happening for the past three years. The girls gain greater gender equity, camaraderie, and confidence. One of the players, Kusum said, “Before no one really looked at us. So we didn’t bother to clean and bathe. We used to wear the same torn dress every day. Now it is different.” Now the girls, dressed in tee-shirts and pants in every colour, could easily be Nike’s next brand ambassadors. They get a huge amount of attention. Their daily practices have become a social ground for an assortment of spectators from the village, and their tournaments draw upwards of 800 viewers. Neil Vassar, one of the donors who visited Yuwa noted, “The girls have a good light in their eyes ... I love to see people learn that it is worth the risk to believe in themselves.” Henry Ford’s adage “whether you think you can or can’t, you are right” comes alive here in Hutup.

Fellowship
The Yuwa House, a three room “pakka makan”, is buzzing with girls in the evening post practice. Dinner is rarely a solitary affair. The washing machine, an early purchase of the Yuwa team to reduce the workload of the girls, is churning away with all the clothes from practice. When an intern is in town, English classes are held for the girls. Otherwise, the girls resort to dinner and Saas bahu and Sasural Genda Phool on TV. Franz recently bought a Dr. Seuss i-pad application that has temporarily diverted the girl’s attention from the TV to i-pad’s disguised English lessons. The younger girls repeat along with Dr. Seuss:

“Have no fear!”, said the cat.
I will not let you fall.
I will hold you up high
As I stand on a ball

Franz speaks of the TV shows like He-man that he loved as a child, and the effort remains to bring action heroes to the action heroes.

Back to School
One final outcome of the girls playing football has been an increase in their school attendance. The coaches have now been tracking each of the player’s school attendance in addition to football attendance. School attendance has shot up for the girls who play football. As any athlete instinctively knows, physical agility has implications for mental agility. Plato recognized it ages ago when he noted that “The purpose of the two established types of education (mental and physical) is not, as some suppose, to deal one with the mind and the other with the body. I think that perhaps the main aim of both is to train the mind” (The Republic).

The Organization
Yuwa is an early-stage ‘access’ organization that Alexis de Tocqueville best defined as a “great link between minds”. Whether you think of a physical-link company like FedEx or a web-link company like Google, these organizations help individuals access each other through two stages - individuals are first given an address or identity (for instance, 1 Race Course Drive or pushpakumari@gmail.com) and then they are connected to each other through physical infrastructure (planes, trains, trucks) or web infrastructure (laptops, cables, telecom towers). Similarly in Yuwa’s case, each player is defined by her most natural abilities as a Defender, Goalkeeper, Forward, Striker et al. This becomes her identity. Kalawati is the Goalkeeper. Pushpa is the Forward. The game, the team, the daily practice, given its unifying construct, becomes the great link between the girls. What Yuwa shares in common with Google and FedEx is an understanding of the fundamentals. A person needs an identity, an address, an understanding of the joy of ownership that then becomes the foundation upon which she can connect with others.

At Yuwa, the word “equity” is afforded its dual meaning of ownership (of one’s abilities) and equality (as a member of the team). Psychologists have for more than a decade now been asserting the same principle with a different vocabulary. Renowned psychologist, Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania, has demonstrated in his work with millions of children that “when a child faces a new task, it often seems very daunting. [Parents and educators need to] use small, achievable steps to grade the challenges wherever possible – starting with a level she can easily control” (The Optimistic Child). In Hutup, a team sports is a platform that the girls can naturally control. “The girls’ entire lives require athleticism whether or not they play football. They are carrying giant loads of wood, working in the rice fields, running after their animals, and doing housework, in addition to walking tens of kilometres to and from school” explains Franz. The mental and physical endurance required of the girls in their daily routine (full of repetition and hard work) makes them formidable sportswomen. Once a girl develops the optimism that her positive action will imply positive outcome, she starts to seek accomplishment in other arenas like school. The rest follows.

Last year, Yuwa won the Nike GAMECHANGERS grant to build a football pitch, spectator seating, community room, and enterprise area. The next steps for Yuwa include acquiring a football field on which they can build a stadium where young men and women from across the country can be coached and then return to coach others in their villages – so as to accomplish the first stated goal of coaching a million girls in football.

Destiny


The term "Manifest Destiny" was first used by John O'Sullivan in 1845 in the United States Magazine and Democratic Review in an article called "Annexation".  The term ardently represented the belief that the United States was ordained by God to expand across the Americas starting with the war with Mexico.

Destiny has been used prior to this and since then to persuade People to support a cause.  Charles Darwin wrote on the destiny of people in the Origins of Species: "As many more individuals of each species are born than can possibly survive; and as, consequently, there is a frequently recurring struggle for existence, it follows that any being, if it vary however slightly in any manner profitable to itself, under the complex and sometimes varying conditions of life, will have a better chance of surviving, and thus be naturally selected. From the strong principle of inheritance, any selected variety will tend to propagate its new and modified form."  In the theory of natural selection quoted above, Darwin states that human being will inevitably adapt towards what is profitable for the self.

Mckinsey and Company referenced destiny again but in a metaphor.  In "The 'Bird of Gold':  The Rise of India's Consumer Market" stated that if India continued on the same growth trajectory, over the next two decades, India would become one of the wealthiest nations in the world.  The reference to the term came from 1AD when merchants referred to India as a Bird of Gold.

What is perfectly manifest is that regardless of whether destiny is ordained by God, inherited from Nature, or a precedent set by History, its purpose is to propel a self-fulfilling prophecy.  This inevitable, unchangeable outcome will come true as long as we are persuaded to believe it will be true.  Destiny, it seems, is unavoidable.  Then what if, destiny could be called upon to serve the purpose of achieving goodness and altruism rather than just wealth?  What if Profit could be revived back to her original intention in Latin of "Progress" or profectus?

Jawaharlal Nehru did just that in his speech, "Tryst with Destiny", when India gained independence from the British in 1947.  He said:  "Long years ago we made a tryst with destiny, and now the time comes when we shall redeem our pledge, not wholly or in full measure, but very substantially.  ... The appointed day has come -the day appointed by destiny- and India stands forth again, after long slumber and struggle, awake, vital, free and independent. The past clings on to us still in some measure and we have to do much before we redeem the pledges we have so often taken. ...We have hard work ahead. There is no resting for any one of us till we redeem our pledge in full, till we make all the people of India what destiny intended them to be. We are citizens of a great country on the verge of bold advance, and we have to live up to that high standard. All of us, to whatever religion we may belong, are equally the children of India with equal rights, privileges and obligations."

Monday, July 18, 2011

Socio

Andre Beteille-
"The intellect of man is forced to choose
Perfection of life, or of the work,
And if it take the second must refuse
A heavenly mansion, raging in the dark"
From Sociology: Essays on Approach & Method

I adore this man who chose right.

Monday, April 25, 2011

Quote on optimism

"Americans see history as a straight line and themselves standing at the cutting edge of it as representatives for all mankind. They believe in the future as if it were a religion; they believe that there is nothing they cannot accomplish, that solutions wait somewhere for all problems, like brides."  Frances Fitzgerald in Fire in the Lake: The Vietnamese and the Americans in Vietnam

Friday, April 22, 2011

Haidt Paraphrase

The baseline does the job for now.  There needs to be a good reason to consider additions.  Shying further away from future planning.  Baadh ki baadh deekhengee.  Meditated.  More and more reluctant of dependency or the pretense of dependency.  

Read Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt.  Reaffirms what I've been wondering about for some time.  A small part of me wishes I'd been taught this with our alphabets.
1.  "Some things in life are worth striving for".  Happiness doesn't come solely from within.  Happiness comes from "in-between"
2.  Romanticizing adversity (Nietzsche's "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger") can be quite harmful to decision-making.  "Depression, anxiety, heart disease and posttraumatic stress disorder all result from ... the notion that stress and trauma can actually be good for people (Haidt, 2006)
3. Noise - Variable or intermittent noise interferes with concentration and increases stress.
4.  Commuting - Even after years of commuting, those whose commutes are traffic-filled still arrive at work with higher levels of stress hormones.
5.  Lack of control – One of the reasons noise and traffic affect happiness is that you can’t control them.
6.  Shame - Surprisingly, people who undergo plastic surgery report (on average) high levels of satisfaction with the process, and they even report increases in the quality of their lives and decreases in psychiatric symptoms (such as depression and anxiety) in the years after the operation. The biggest gains were for breast reductions and breast augmentations. Haidt explains this increase in well being as resulting from being freed from the shame and self-consciousness of being “different.”
7.  Relationships – Good relationships make people happy, and happy people enjoy more and better relationships than unhappy people. But having conflict in relationships reduces that happiness because we never adapt to interpersonal conflict and even on days when you don’t see the people you have conflict with, you may think about it.

Saturday, April 9, 2011

What do you hoard?

Like a bodybuilder
Muscles to last us a lifetime.
A carry-on luggage
Place for clothes that can cover us in every season.
A wooden room
That can shelter us in its simplicity
The doors to which we may open in the mornings and shut at night
A kettle that can purify our water
Books that engage us till we are ready to go out and build a new world,
One that is based on equality

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Psychology

Introversion.  Not allowed.
Resistant attachment.  Not allowed.
Avoidant attachment.  Not allowed.
Running away.  Cliche.
Agape.  For the self-sacrificing.
Objectivism.  Isolating.

Gracious, it isn't easy to Secure & Adventurous.

Friday, March 25, 2011

Swimming in Milk

I've imagined what it would be like to swim in milk.  The hungry billion aside, it's nice as a thought.  The thought costs nothing - in money or guilt.  Milk as a base that would neutralize all acidity.  Milk as a nutrient that would quell all hunger. 

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Arrived

We're happy because not much is expected of us and yet we are capable of everything. 

We're free to make what we will of ourselves.

We're free to find those like us. 

We're free to enjoy solitude.  It is anything but solitary.



Sunday, March 13, 2011

Employer Employee Relations

Why are we so willing to service the assets of other? Why are we so reluctant to take care of our own? Should we stop institutionalizing "service before self" (DPS)? What are the differences across modern day employment and indentured servitude? 

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Halcyon Values

Word of the while - halcyon \HAL-see-uhn\, noun:


1. A kingfisher.
2. A mythical bird, identified with the kingfisher, that was fabled to nest at sea about the time of the winter solstice and to calm the waves during incubation.  The term originates from the Greek myth of Alcyone.

adjective:
1. Calm; quiet; peaceful; undisturbed; happy; as, "deep, halcyon repose."
2. Marked by peace and prosperity; as, "halcyon years".


-Lack of greed
-Ethics
-Not persuasion.  Determining what the other person wants and giving him / her that while getting what you want
-Being fair
-Impact
-Make money
-Retain the Will to be
-Be at the top

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Learning to be noncommittal


It is sheer silliness to make any commitment before you have the clarity of self (to know that you can uphold your end of the bargain) and before you have confidence in the other (and his/her ability to uphold that end of the bargain).  I NEVER thought I'd quill everything down to barter.  Alas the pure have been converted.  

Steer clear.  Jai hind!